"If they like you, you're it. No easing in and exploring each other, then making up your mind. Possibly, with their keen insight into people, that's all the time it takes to make a valid psychological assessment, but nonetheless it can scare off folks who need longer to make a commitment."
"Fearing abandonment, they attempt to bind the lover with mechanisms described earlier. Out of desperate fear, they often tragically create the abandonment they work so hard to aboid, for they wind up being suffocating."